Me Too was always going to go too far. Unlimited power does that to people. So does moral certainty (climate change activists being the best/worst examples).
Its early wins were good: Harvey Weinstein and Louis CK and Kevin Spacey spring to mind..
Louis was a big win.
Make no mistake: Louis CK is a scumbag.
His moral compass is broken. This isn’t a surprise to his fans. Louis CK’s been talking about how broken he is for years. It was a shock when we found out that life wasn’t imitating art – it was life – but it made sense.
Then there’s Aziz Ansari.
He’s no Louis CK. On any front. He’s not (based on what we know so far) a scumbag. But in 2017 he went on a date with a fan.
He should have stayed at home that night and done a Louis.
We know about Ansari’s date because Grace, the datee, wrote a long article about it at babe.com.
She’s also released her texts to Ansari:
This is the text Grace* sent Aziz Ansari after their date which left her feeling “violated”. She tells Ansari how uncomfortable he made her feel, saying “you ignored clear non-verbal cues” and “kept going with advances.”
— babe (@babedotnet) January 14, 2018
Her article included her whingeing about having white wine. She doesn’t like white wine.
She posted a pic of the lobster tail dinner they had. She’s not a cheap date, either.
Grace explains some of the night:
After arriving at his apartment in Manhattan on Monday evening, they exchanged small talk and drank wine. “It was white,” she said. “I didn’t get to choose and I prefer red, but it was white wine.” Then Ansari walked her to Grand Banks, an Oyster bar onboard a historic wooden schooner on the Hudson River just a few blocks away.
Grace says she sensed Ansari was eager for them to leave. “When the waiter came over he quickly asked for the check and he said like, ‘Let’s get off this boat.’” She recalls there was still wine in her glass and more left in the bottle he ordered. The abruptness surprised her. “Like, he got the check and then it was bada-boom, bada-bing, we’re out of there.”
They walked the two blocks back to his apartment building, an exclusive address on TriBeCa’s Franklin Street, where Taylor Swift has a place too. When they walked back in, she complimented his marble countertops. According to Grace, Ansari turned the compliment into an invitation.
“He said something along the lines of, ‘How about you hop up and take a seat?’” Within moments, he was kissing her. “In a second, his hand was on my breast.” Then he was undressing her, then he undressed himself. She remembers feeling uncomfortable at how quickly things escalated.
And continued to escalate.
But at no point does she allege assault. It was a date gone bad.
Thoughts about the date split on gender lines. Your thoughts are welcome.
As a result of the article, Ansari has had a lot of spare time in the past year.
What Ansari did – and does not deny – is an awkward interaction between two people. It could fall loosely into the purview of the #Me Too movement … but there are problems.
Keep that in mind … now, to Kevin Hart, another comedian …
Kevin Hart doesn’t want a gay son
Kevin Hart was sacked from this year’s Oscars because he made some comments about gays which are prehistoric, but probably common.
He doesn’t want a gay son. This is an unfashionable opinion, but a lot of parents don’t want a gay son – because of heterosexuals.
Heterosexuals make life difficult for gays.
Being gay will become easier in future years as attitudes change, but if you talk to many gays about their lives, you will hear the fear in their voice about being bashed if a hook-up goes wrong and their anger at not being accepted by society until very recently.
This is because of heterosexuals.
This is changing, but being gay is harder than being heterosexual. Who would deny it? To repeat: this is because of heterosexuals.
What Kevin Hart said was not nice. He alo called someone a “fat-faced fag”. That’s not nice either. No matter how fat thier face is.
But why is The Guardian lumping Kevin Hart with Louis CK?
This wasn’t the purpose of #MeToo but it’s now morphed into punishing every male behaviour women don’t like. That’s a problem.
Let’s meet the author at The Guardian, Hadley Freeman.
The Guardian conflates
Hadley Freeman is a writer for The Guardian and Me Too is one of her most favouritest topics.
She’s written about Ansari’s bad date before; almost exactly a year ago, in fact.
Now she’s brought all the threads together into one article. Louis CK (the scumbag), Ansari (the bad date) and Hart (the homophobe).
Not a great night out.
She revisits the topic because Louis CK has started standup again after a year without work.
Freeman isn’t happy about it. She thinks he hasn’t learned his lesson. How does she know?
And she isn’t happy about Kevin Hart appearing on Ellen. She doesn’t think he’s learned his lesson. How does she know?
(BTW: Hart has issued a grovelling apology.)
Freeman isn’t happy that Ansari is back working. She doesn’t think he has learned his lesson (which might be to stay away from women, judging by the weak tea of his story).
You shouldn’t be happy about it either.
Let’s be clear … Hart and Ansari are not in the same league as Louis CK. And Ansari, the wokest and most ‘innocent’ of them all, has paid the price of a year with minimal work.
Hart has lost the Oscars (but few fans – he may in fact have expanded his reach although he’s lost material).
Freeman’s point is that
… no one can dictate how someone should react to being publicly shamed and vilified. But it would be nice if at least some of these men could spend, I don’t know, two minutes examining their culpability, instead of running away from such reflections in terror and lashing out at the world, like a toddler who can’t deal with being told off for being mean to his baby sister so he hits his mother. I don’t ask for much, guys. But I will ask for adult men to be better than toddlers.
She doesn’t know what they have been through. At all.
In Louis’ case, whatever it was probably isn’t enough, but he is now a punchline. And what was turning into his greatest year became his worst. His comeback will be slow. But it will be his audience that decides its speed as they decided his ascent.
That’s as it should be. Not activists trying to destroy a career based on their moral superiority.
His comeback routine itself irritated the woke; Louis CK had a crack at the Parkland shooting witnesses:
A clip of his latest routine was recently leaked in which he mocked, of all people, the survivors of the Parkland shooting, confirming that CK hasn’t quite grasped who’s who in the whole predator-victim nexus.
His point is more than valid. What’s more – it’s comedy. It’s meant to make you laugh and osmeimtes even think. It’s not a woke-a-thon.
What Louis said about Parkland
Louis had a great point about Parkland. According to CNN, Louis CK said:
Testify in front of Congress, these kids, what the f***? What are you doing? Cause you went to a high school where kids got shot, why does that mean I have to listen to you? Why does that make you interesting? You didn’t get shot. You pushed some fat kid in the way and now I gotta listen to you talking?
Yep, that’s how it works.
Truth is, they are able to talk about being survivors of a horrific shooting, but they are not instant experts about gun law. Treating them as such actually dumbs down the debate.
Just as conflating crimes under the banner of #Me Too (sexual assault and school shootings) dumbs down the debate about crimes against women. The real victims are owed more.
One last ‘comedian’
One reason the debate has expanded is the influence of Australian comedian du jour Hannah Gadsby.
Talk about angry.
Recently she gave a lengthy diatribe against men … this is probably the right clip but there are dozens out there and they’re all basically the same. Since her Nanette Netflix special, this has become her schtick.
Grrrrr. So. Very. Angry.
Good on her.
Comedy is meant to make us think. Gadsby does that … without the distraction of laughing at the same time.
Gadsby’s points is that men suck. Her argument is more complex but that’s the essence. The constant attacks on men are getting a bit tiresome and we aren’t that far into her 15.
Judging by the comments on her Twitter feed from men, she has some reason to angry with men. Men treat her appallingly and shouldn’t.
Her agent needs to have a quiet word in her ear:
- Go woke, go broke.
- Have you got another routine?
She’s now a stereotype. The angry lesbian routine has been done and it has a short life, no matter how valid your issues.
One last point … Louis CK is still a scumbag.